On Being a House Guest

I’m not a very good house guest. I’m not one for small talk. I am set in my ways. I’m awkward in other people’s kitchens. Oh who am I kidding, I’m awkward in my own kitchen. I’m not very good at being heard, or telling people what I need in a way that doesn’t come across as contrary. I am also very independent regarding what I want to do and when I want to do it. My Dad and Bobbie are most gracious hosts, and yet we need to check in with them and coordinate meals and activities. And of course we do; this is reasonable and appropriate, but I don’t find it easy. I have lived outside of a parent’s home for around 18 years now and while I am accountable to my husband and children, for the most part I can decide the course of my day. You know, get up, get ready, work all day, take care of children, meals and house stuff. But other than that my time is all my own.


Vacations are good.

About Finola

I am an Ottawa area Mom, writer-want-to-be and coffee legend in the making.
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6 Responses to On Being a House Guest

  1. gryph07 says:

    I totally understand! Even now, heading back to my mom's place is not the relaxing haven it could be, because I'm so used to depending on myself. 🙂

    But at least there's a vacation involved! 🙂

  2. Laura says:

    I find it depends on the house. Some hosts make it easy to visit…others not so much. The extra bonus part of vacations (for me) is that feeling when you first get home. Aaahh!

    Have a super vacation Finola. 🙂

  3. It's hard to be a guest in someone else' house! And it's even harder to be on vacation in your parents' house! We went to florida with my parents for two weeks with Joel. I don't think I'll be repeating that vacation anytime soon!

  4. Capital Mom says:

    There are very few people I will stay with. I will bemoan the cost, but I will still pay for a hotel.

  5. alison says:

    It's funny, I feel very at home in some people's houses, and yet awkward and uncomfortable in other people's houses, even if I'm closer friends with the latter. It's hard to tell in advance. This is a good thing to think about, as I'm going to be in the other shoes, hosting houseguests this summer, and I want them to feel comfortable.

  6. Finola says:

    gryph07, I hear you and I was really trying not to sound like I was complaining, because we did have a great time.

    Laura, Oh, I did get that feeling when I walked into my house last night. Home!

    Somekindofmom, It is an interesting dynamic being a kid again – because that's what you are in your parent's house no matter how old you are 🙂

    Capital Mom, I've done that before too because sometimes it is well worth the cost.

    Alison, I wonder what it is that makes it easier in some people's houses than others? I'll bet it has something to do with how comfortable the host is with just being themselves when someone is visiting them. Let me know if you figure it out.

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