Date Night. NaBloPoMo Day 24

Despite the fact that I am a huge fan of both Tina Fey and Steve Carell, I have not seen the movie Date Night, and I don’t really have any desire to either. It looks a bit too slapstick-y for my tastes, though do correct me if I’m wrong. I am thinking that the idea of a date night is a good one, however, and I am wondering how to incorporate this into our already overloaded family schedule.

Somehow children, work, and a house that needs constant renovation and attention have had an impact on the quality time that Tony and I spend together. Huh, go figure. Those of you with kids know what I’m talking about, right? Evening walks are a distant memory; movies in a theater not rated G are a once-a-year event, and I doubt we could tell a fox trot from a tango anymore after eight years of putting ballroom dancing on hold. At the end of the day it is much easier to watch House after the kids are in bed than going to the extreme effort of hiring a babysitter and hauling our tired bodies up off the couch and out the door.

Easier isn’t necessarily better though, and this is a trap that we have fallen into. There is no reason for Tony and me not to get out once in a while, even if it’s only twice a month for a couple of hours. Our kids practically push us out the door when a babysitter arrives, so we can no longer use the excuse that we don’t want to leave them with someone else.

We have both been pretty good about finding time for our own interests and hobbies, because it is easy to spell each other off when either of us want to go to the gym or meet a friend for a coffee, but we have not gotten ourselves organized enough to do things together, like we should. This weekend we will be at my cousin’s wedding. We had the option of bringing the girls, but we chose to hire a babysitter instead so we could enjoy ourselves and stay out later. Perhaps we will even get in a waltz on Saturday night. Fun!

Maybe we will sign up for dance lessons this winter, or maybe we will just go for a walk once in a while in the evenings and stop for a coffee in the neighbourhood, but I think Date Night is coming to our house soon. Maybe I should watch the movie to prepare myself for what could happen?

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7 Responses to Date Night. NaBloPoMo Day 24

  1. i have not seen the movie either, but we try and get out at least once a week:).

    even if it is just to grab a quick bite and browse magazines without the kids. they like the time away from us just as much, i am sure ( the two big ones just veg without us while the little one gets coddled by his favourite sitter).

  2. Gwen says:

    Dan and I don't have date night. Once, in 2006, we had lunch together. It was nice…

  3. Liisa says:

    Just saw three quarters of the movie last week. Some giggles but did not feel like I had to watch the whole thing.

    As far as our date nights go, we do try to get out once a week but it usually ends up being probably three out of every four weeks. Often we're too tired to do a full night out, so we book a babysitter for a Friday late afternoon and go to a 4:30 movie and/or a quick dinner. Then, we can come home before or after bedtime, depending on our mood…

    Oh, and over the summer, I booked a teenager for every single Saturday night. It was an amazing way to force us to go out, even if it was just doing errands and having a snack on our own.

    I highly recommend dates.

  4. Love date night. We have an arrangement whereby each month one of us is responsible for organizing it and planning a night the other would like. (Which means I plan to take Andrew out to a pub for wings, beer and a football game, and he buys opera tickets. Or something like that.) We alternate months, and it doesn't always work out. And we are not supposed to do the same thing all the time.

    But date night can also be putting the kids to bed early with books, having a nice dinner and curling up to watch a movie. We try to do that too. Really it's about connecting – and it's easy to lose sight of doing that with everyday life. Conversations about who takes the kids to karate are not quite the connection I need.

    I love ballroom dancing and we used to be quite good (well, Andrew is good; I can follow quite well). The problem is there is nowhere to go dancing like that, so you forget. Or I do, anyway.

  5. Date night is one of those many, many things that are wonderful pieces advice that have gone nowhere in our house. We manage to make time for our own interests, like you and Tony do, but rarely do anything together — getting a babysitter has just not managed to be as simple as I would have thought. Perhaps when Max is a little older …

  6. Laura says:

    We don't have date night and we should…but it doesn't even make the list of priorities. I sure like the sound of Denise's monthly date. Maybe I'll copy her idea…

  7. We do have date nights, but they seem to happen more often when it's someone's birthday or an anniversary. It would be nice to have them happen more regularly. Funny though, whenever we do have a date night, we always end up at the same restaurant.

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