For two weeks life was a little easier for me in our household. Tony was effectively a Stay at Home Dad once again and I had forgotten how much easier things are when one parent is at home. I need to qualify that things were easier for me only, and not Tony. Tony still had his full time consulting work to do, but he had to push his work into the evenings since he was on parental duties starting at 11:30 when our five-year-old’s senior kindergarten class is dismissed.
We have had some childcare issues lately. Our lovely caregiver finished working with us at Christmas time, and while we have managed to get our older daughter into the after school program at her school, our youngest is still on the wait list. Since Tony works from home, he is the default parent to pick up the slack.
Tony is no stranger to SAHD duties. After I took my two maternity leaves, Tony stayed home with the girls for another two and a half years. Tony has a lot of energy and so for the last two weeks I have come home to great dinners, stories about playdates, tobogganing, and ice cream making. The grocery shopping was done, and oldest daughter’s birthday party was magically planned and booked. My overall stress levels were down and I felt regret at what we had lost when Tony went back to work almost two years ago. I had forgotten what all of this was like. I also noticed a lot of the tensions between Tony and me were lifted with the reduced busy-ness of our evenings.
Now we have found a short-term solution to our daycare problem, and I am feeling sad. We will get right back into the groove, but this short reprieve was a reminder to me of how lucky we have been to have had some flexibility in our lives when the girls were very small.